1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 9:47 PM
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So question about my 3 year old son (turns 4 in January) and freak outs during bath time around Park Ridge. My son has for the past year/year and half been afraid to get water in his eyes and to a lesser extent his ears. Every day that bath time comes around, he just starts screaming and crying thinking about water getting into his eyes. We have tried getting him used to the water little by little and going to several different places for swimming lessons to get him over his fear, but nothing seems to work. For the past couple of months, I have been having him just tilt his head back so I can wash his hair without getting water in his eyes. And for some reason, he doesn't "trust" daddy and screams through his whole bath when my husband tries to give him one. ANY suggestions would be much much appreciated!

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 9:53 PM

Goggles?

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 9:53 PM

My friend's daughter had a similar issue. Have you tried goggles? Either the Speedo kind or the one piece snorkle kind. Might look goofy but can at least get him in the water.

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 9:56 PM

My kids are fine swimming but they don’t like the water during bath time. Go figure. I tilt their head back and have them hold a wash cloth on their face.

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 9:56 PM

Maybe do it in the sink with a hand held sprayer or pot. Have him kneel over on a chair. Maybe in The tub its scary for him. Maybe he thinks if he shuts his eyes in the water he wont see and hell drown? Give him a bath separately from the neck down. Maybe an idea. Have him hold a washcloth over his eyes while u wash his hair

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 9:57 PM

What happens if you bathe or shower with him?

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 10:02 PM

Give him the power. Hand him a wash cloth and a plastic cup to rinse with. Just supervise him and tell him to ask for help if he can't do it.

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 10:10 PM

I had the same issue. This helped a lot with my son. You can find it at Walmart or Amazon

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 10:10 PM

Search online under toddler bath water guard visors, they have ones with and without ear guards which keeps water off the face, that might help.

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 10:14 PM

And ear plugs?

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 10:14 PM

Same issue here with my granddaughter who’s here 2 days a week. We turned bathtime into a party. Lots of toys, bubbles, colors and silly songs. Takes a lot longer but she’s 1000% better.

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 10:17 PM

Give him a washcloth to cover his eyes. My daughter is the same way. This is our compromise

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 10:23 PM

Also another thing that works great (mom of 7, 3 of whom are adults now and survived LOL) is to just have them try the shower after bath to rinse. They seem super young BUT it offers them a lot of control. Stand him up, show him that he is in control of how far back he walks, show him the washcloth over the eyes trick (it usually absorbs enough to deflect off the ears too) and guide him with your hand on his shoulder at first. My #6 just turned 4 and that's what we do, first we wash and play and whatever in the tub, then he stands and I turn on the shower. He rinses and gets out. I hold the shower curtain across myself so i dont get drenched. Then I pull down the sprayer and do the 2 year old.

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 10:31 PM

Been years but I had this problem with my daughter. Finally no baths but showers. She would hold a facecloth over her face and let us rinse her hair with the long shower nozzle.

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 10:37 PM

Please. From someone who didn't know any better. Talk to the pediatrician. We are now in 6th grade just figuring out he has an Executive Functioning Disorder. Not saying your child has this but this also comes with Sensory integration disorder. Mine hated baths, haircuts, nail clipping etc!

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 10:41 PM

Have you had him checked for autism?

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1 month ago on 10/17/2018 at 11:47 PM

Showers with Mom. I had to do this with my son until he was 6 ( no judgement please), since then he has started taking baths again and laying down in the water to rinse.

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1 month ago on 10/18/2018 at 12:01 AM

While it can be a symptom of sensory processing issues- I can say that my child who DOES have them (asperger's, ADHD) had zero issues with the water and my biggest scaredy cat is without any. So yes, it can go hand in hand but also it is hugely common in lots of kids.

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1 month ago on 10/18/2018 at 4:09 AM

Maybe do not run the tub spout at all while he is in the bathroom. It is kinda of loud especially if he is in the tub and could give him anxiety right off the bat. Have the bath already drawn before he gets in the bathroom and dont run it at all for the duration. Maybe you already do this but just a suggestion.

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1 month ago on 10/18/2018 at 4:50 AM

Sun visor.

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1 month ago on 10/18/2018 at 5:51 AM

Swim glasses.

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1 month ago on 10/18/2018 at 9:23 AM

I used swim goggles for mine

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1 month ago on 10/18/2018 at 9:55 AM

As a kid I remember similar fears. To this day I hyperventilate when I put my face in the water. I have claustrophobia and think this is related. Does he have other issues like not wanting a blanket pull too close to his face? Good luck!

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1 month ago on 10/18/2018 at 12:07 PM

I would try to keep working with him with positive reinforcement and even maybe show him that having water on your own face doesn’t bother you at all! I’m a swim instructor and the most effective way (in my personal experience) to get a kid comfortable with pouring water on their own head is when I do it to myself and they notice I’m not negatively effected by it.

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1 month ago on 10/18/2018 at 12:07 PM

I would try to keep working with him with positive reinforcement and even maybe show him that having water on your own face doesn’t bother you at all! I’m a swim instructor and the most effective way (in my personal experience) to get a kid comfortable with pouring water on their own head is when I do it to myself and they notice I’m not negatively effected by it.

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1 month ago on 10/18/2018 at 2:03 PM

Swim goggles

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1 month ago on 10/18/2018 at 4:15 PM

Maybe try just filling the tub with a small amount of water and when you wash his hair use a wash cloth instead of pouring water to wash and rinse hair. my oldest never liked bath, he squatted in tub until he was about 4. He’s 6 now and loves swimming and water- good luck!

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1 month ago on 10/18/2018 at 9:32 PM

My son was the same way. I thought maybe he drowned in a previous life. It was so dramatic every single time. I even bought some visor to keep the water off his face. He is now 15 and showers at least once a day. It just got easier. Lots of bribes and rewards.

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1 month ago on 10/19/2018 at 7:38 AM

What if you try him giving mommy or daddy a bath. Obviously you can do so in a swim suit before anyone gets weird. But maybe doing this you can say “ can you teach me how to give a bath” creating the idea that he is in control and that way he can join you but you follow his lead?

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1 month ago on 10/19/2018 at 10:01 AM

Just ideas: I like the idea of having him take a shower, or just rinse using that. Maybe take him to the store and have him pick out special bath/shower toys, including a cup or something he’s excited to use to rinse. Does he have a toy that can take baths with him? Wondering if it would help to have him do each step to his toy (or watch you do it) and then it’s his turn? I babysat a boy who by that age had a bedtime checklist and got to put up a sticker after each step - he loved it. Maybe that would help too?

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